diary of an nlp practitioner: part 1

I may have a piece of paper that tells me I am an “NLP Trainer“, but I am still an NLP Practitioner. You may have a piece of paper that tells you that you are a “Master Practitioner” or a “Master Trainer” you may even have several pieces of paper saying you an “NLP Practitioner” and a “Timeline Therapist” or some such.

None of that matters, whilst you are interested in, using or learning NLP (and we are all still learning) you are an NLP Practitioner (don’t let that piece of paper or papers distract your ego…).

I consider an NLP Practitioner (in this context) as someone who practices NLP in the same way as a martial arts practitioner, or, to use a dictionary definition “a person actively engaged in an art, discipline or profession” (see my previous blog post here).

So, in this new (and most probably infrequent) series I am going to take some time to discuss what I am up to and how I am using, practicing or developing NLP in my day-to-day life.

Those of you that have trained with me know that I have one very strict rule about utilising NLP and that is “if you DO NOT use NLP on your self, you have NO RIGHT using it on anyone else”. Sort your self out first before you go NLPing on other people. Obviously I am not suggesting that you should be perfect before you use NLP on someone else (no one can be), but at least make the effort to get comfortable with the concepts and patterns and utilise these on yourself to create more flexible and useful behaviours.

There is no need to rush this, it is the journey, the exploration, that is the fun part here.

Incidentally, as a slight aside, when using NLP on your self, don’t trick yourself into thinking you are better than you are (it can, sadly, be quite common), wisdom comes with self-awareness. Especially be very careful if you decide to experiment with the “As If” pattern…

I have just come off the first Module of my most recent NLP Practitioner training (a great group of people – I hope they have enjoyed it as much as I have) and have noticed that I am very drained. I have allowed my energy to become too scattered, too “high up” (I could feel it my face). So I am doing some energy work and combining it with using some trance work and submodalities and synesthesia (crossing over of the senses) to gather focus and channel my energy, conserve it a little bit and not wipe myself out so much!

I have been practicing Martial Arts for 22 years and Tai Chi and Chi Kung for 15 of that. Still I only consider myself an “advanced beginner”, but using the principles and patterns of Chi Kung (especially those discussed by Master Lam Kam Chuen in his excellent book “Chi Kung: Way of Power“) and using my posture and movement as anchors; using my hands to subtly, yet powerfully guide my “energy” and focus back to my belly (the Tantien or “one point”), hopefully this will “solve the problem”, although, I only have a few days before the next module, so may not have it down pat by then…

Talking about Tai Chi and Chi Kung I am currently reading Stephen Russell’s (The Barefoot Doctor) recent book “The Man Who Drove With His Eyes Closed“, I am a big fan of the Doc and think this is his best book since “Return of the Urban Warrior” even though it is much less of a guide book and much more of a story.

At one point in the book the Doc say’s “I love changing my perspective. It’s my favourite pastime”.

I have recently noticed, in some of my communication, my perspective has become a little fixed and I am saying what “is” rather what ” it seems to be to me”, I am confusing (in NLP parlance) my “map” with my “territory” and developing some strategies to catch myself making such absurd statements of “fact” and challenge and change my perspective. I am also re-reading “Prometheus Rising” and “Quantum Psychology“.

Right, off to stand “mountain still” to practice my energy flow (whilst listening to the Church of Subgenius Hour of Slack – to remind me about humour and flexibility).

Matt

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