Jump in, splash about a bit!

Man. I haven’t written for a while, not because of lack of creativity (see earlier posts) but because of lack of time. So much has been going on in the last 3 weeks, some good, some bad, some totally indifferent, and I have been thinking of lots of things I want to get across in this journal.

Firstly, I have just finished up a Master Practitioner training, and I have to say here a big, big thank you to the attendees, for making it the best course I have ever run. I really, truly believe, after 5 years of NLP trainings that it is as much (if not more) the course delegates that make the course a success, much more that my training prowess. I can change my training style and deliver OKish trainings to most groups, but sometimes you just get a bunch of people who make it zing! Who really get a long.

The previous training I did before this one was totally the opposite, the trainees were surly and aggressive and it felt like I was the one the being tested by them, not me teaching and assessing their skills!! A very peculiar experience. But that is what I love so much about my job, the randomness and flexibility. I have another Prac starting on Saturday and very much hope the attendees are like the first group I mentioned, not the latter.

I think it is because a lot of peoples experience of learning has been predominantly from school and structured education, very linear, very academic and very, very dull (most of the time), or from Corporate trainings where some strange convention suggests that the training has to involve timetables and “Powerpoint” and the training is “delivered” like some sort of odd take away food, suggesting the delegates sit there passively and take it in.

Sadly, some NLP trainers have acquiesced to this type of training style, removing totally the power and usefulness of NLP!

People who have attended these type of trainings a lot have been hypnotised into thinking this the ONLY way to deliver a training and feel very uncomfortable when NLP does not live up to their expectations (it astounds me how many people still ask for a timetable of my trainings!)

Anyone that has ever learned a foreign language will tell you that the best way to do it is to be totally immersed in it. This is the best way to learn full stop, not the linear approach. My friend Andy did French and school, in the traditional linear way. Learned nothing. A few years later he ended up in a job in Paris and had to learn French seriously quickly (about 2 weeks), so he took an intensive course and moved to Paris, within 2 weeks he was conversational, in about 6 he was almost fluent and after 3 years he spoke like a native! He spent 3 years learning France at school and could just about say hello by the end if it!!

NLP is the same, if you learn it in a traditional linear way (or even worse these terrible weekend courses that last 9 months!), you will never really get it, you need to be immersed.

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